Below, Jenni Kosarin will tell you what to do before you mess up (and then—all of a sudden—huh: He’s Just Not That Into You).

Jenni will answer dating questions you’ve got for her each month. If it’s a question about a guy (or girl), get to the meat of one question and ask that. (Don’t list 5 or 6—or 28!) If it’s a love astrology question, be sure to include your birthdate (day, month, and year) as well as that of the guy (or girl) your heart pitter-patters for at the moment. The hour you were born is not necessary. And, hey—please keep it brief. (Tighty-whitey it.) (Tanks.)

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A question for Jenni: Leos and Scorpios 06:04pm EDT, 30 Sep 2007 (Updated 06:07pm EDT, 30 Sep 2007) Hi, I’m Lauren. Love your book! Actually,book(s). I have the Everything Astrology Book, too… but HE’S JUST NOT IN THE STARS is HILARIOUS - love it! But, anyway, I'm a scorpio/venus in scorpio, dating a leo, venus in leo (ugh). We seem to be made for each other, but he also tends to pull away. What can i do to get him to worship me and treat me like a queen? (I know it's hard with leo/leo. I've done my homework on astrology, but I still can't figure out the leo/leo monster. I want to make him want me so bad... he shows up at my door with a ring (typical leo/leo, and xy chromosome bearer). I think he's a little gun-shy about nuptials (and confusing to me, being a superior xx chromosome bearer). :) Can you PLEASE help me figure this guy out and how to make him bow before me. (I AM a goddess, dontcha know?) :) Again, I read a lot about astrology and your books are really helpful, but I think I need straight-on advice, tailor-made to be my tailor… Please, please: sew the threads of love tight on this relationship (just don't sew my thighs shut in the process)...I AM dating a leo, and I'm a scorpio...You know that would be apocalyptic for both of us! LOL! Thanks! more...

A question for Jenni 08:59pm EST, 31 Oct 2006 (Updated 10:07pm EDT, 29 Jul 2007) Q: I'm 27 and my boyfriend and I have been together for a year. Here’s my problem: I recently asked him how he feels about us and the future… He told me that he’s not sure—he doesn’t know if I’m the right one for him. Please tell me: How do I convince him that I am? I love this guy and want to marry him someday! Please help!! –Elissa A: Elissa, Wow. Okay. You’re driving 100 miles an hour toward a seven car pile up down the road. Put on the brakes now before you get hurt! You say that your boyfriend isn’t sure about you and you want advice about how to change his mind. There are so many things wrong with this statement, how can you be so sure he’s Mr. Right? (You need to know before you get hung up on Mr. Wrong.) Let’s begin with the obvious: Now, why on earth would you want someone who doesn’t want you forever and right back atcha? If he’s unsure now, how will he be in ten years with kids (assuming you want some), mortgage payments, and regular stresses and responsibilities of everyday life—providing he ever gets around to popping the big question? True, he may not have considered life without you… (That’s a big one, and something some guys need to experience before they realize how much they love you. Below, the advice will help you make sure he’s not just scared of commitment.) Before you try it, though, understand how human nature works. The more you try to convince someone of something, the less he or she wants to buy whatever you’re selling. Simple truth. So, listen. I’d go the other way. I’d say: Mr. Boyfriend (insert Elissa’s boyfriend’s name here), I think you’re right. I think we’re totally wrong for one another. In fact, I think you can find better than me and you should start trying to find her right now. Open the door, signal the way, and make sure the door does smack him on the way out. (Wow. He would freak. But yes, I’m joking!! I don’t mean you should throw a neurotic, annoying, childish temper tantrum. Do it in a stable, grounded way. Tell him you need some time to think about a few things—like if he’s right for you. Then leave. Just trying to make a point here by illustrating it harshly.) If he loves you, and wants you for good, he'll do everything in his power to convince you that you’re the one. Promise.

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JEN on DATING:

“Everyone’s got baggage. But your luggage should match.”

“Luck in love is just a matter of playing your cards right when you’re dealt a bad hand.”

“Stop letting him IM you for dates! He should pick up the phone! A text message should never sweep you off your feet… Unless, of course, you trip on the keyboard while deleting it.”

“If the relationship doesn’t move forward, it’s clouds in your coffee. Move on.”

“Wear your heart on your sleeve… But make him knit the sweater first.”

“Anyone can follow a good recipe (advice like: don’t accept a date on Wednesday for Friday)… But it’ll never make you a great chef.”

Love is like math and the Lowest Common Denominator. You’re only as happy as the least happy person in a twosome.

Love is not like math in that 1+1=2. Sometimes, when one of you in a relationship is just not that into it, 1+1 still equals 1.

Buy Jenni's HE'S JUST NOT IN THE STARS here.